Oral Sex

Some women love it, some don't.  Those who don't mostly have inhibitions about it that prevent them from fully enjoying it.  There is simply no reason that a man (with a tongue) can't bring a woman to multiple orgasms through oral sex.  That is not always true of regular sex.   Oral sex is like a guaranteed and easy orgasm for a woman.  You don't have to do anything, you can lie there and let your man do all the work.  And, again, like with household chores, his sex drive will kick in and he will love it too.  A man can generally only have a strong erection and ejaculation once every 2 or 3 days.  He can give good oral sex as often as you like.  So, there are many advantages.

It's also important for a man to associate pleasing his wife with sex.  Again, for the man, it's all about his sex drive.  You want as much of that sex drive to be funnelled into pleasing you as possible.  Whether by housework or oral sex or whatever.  Pleasing you equals sexual pleasure and ultimately release for him.  I require that Alex give me 5 orgasms for every orgasm I allow him.  Obviously, that can only happen if Alex gives me lots of oral sex.  I never give it to him as I want to save his orgasms for our regular sex.

But, you need to take control of the oral sex.  Tell your man what to do and how to do it.  You don't have to verbalize it, you can communicate plenty well enough by guiding his head as he goes to work with his tongue.
I tell Alex to be diligent and eager when he gives me head.  This isn't a problem because he loves it.  But, that's the idea.  Diligent and eager.   He should take his time exploring your entire vagina with his tongue.  He should try flick his tongue up behind your pubic bone, if he can reach.  Maybe stick his fingers in at the same time.  Just have him do what feels good to you.

Put your hand behind his head and guide it to where it feels good for you.  Take your time, go slow.  But, when the time comes, really push his head into your vagina.  Sometimes I'll use both my hands to push Alex's head so hard that he can no longer breathe, then I squeeze his head with my inner thighs as hard as I can.  And I tell Alex I won't release him until I've come -- HARD.  Believe me, his tongue is working plenty hard at this point.   Often, after I've come and released him, his head is purplish due to lack of oxygen I guess -- but, it's great fun for us both.