How To Harness a Man's Sex Drive

Following up on my first post, I don't think I clarified well enough exactly how to harness the male sex drive so that it is used to make life wonderful for everyone in a family.  You've got to use it to focus your man on pleasing you (his spouse/girlfriend) and thereby spending his time efficiently and productively on things that benefit you, your marriage/relationship and your family as a whole.

The truth is that unless that sex drive is bridled/harnessed it will lead a man to be unproductive or worse get into trouble.  Think of all the men in the public eye who get into trouble due to "acting out" sexually.  Tiger Woods, John Edwards, I could name hundreds, all men.  Not that women never have sex issues -- but the male sex drive creates lots more problems -- and opportunities.

But, if it can be focused into pleasing one woman (you) -- wow, that's great for you and him too.  He doesn't need to waste hours, even days, pursuing fantasies on-line or elsewhere.  Fantasies that could cause him and those he loves harm.  He can have all his fantasies fulfilled, right here, in his real-life relationship with you; that you control.  You are happy and he is too.  And, both of you more productive as well.  Think how much reading you can get done while he does the housework :)

OK, but how do you harness that sex drive?  Here's the deal, immediately after sex (and depending on age maybe for the next 24 hours) the man has little or no sex drive.  It begins to build at about the 24 hour mark, is strong at 48 hours and really strong at 72 hours.  At that point, he is doing everything he can to please you and he is very, very susceptible to your guidance.  That is the time you want to introduce new things you want him to do.  Like if you want him to take over the laundry, that's when to ask him if he'd do that. He'll agree.  He'll agree to nearly anything you want at that point.

This http://www.rwddh.com/rwddh.pdf discusses manual stimulation/conversation
pdf  talks about having these really important, life-altering, discussions while you are on top of your man, slowly manipulating his penis.  You want to make it hard, but not allow him to reach orgasm.  You can literally do this for hours if need be.  He'll enjoy it and be on edge the whole time.  During that time, he will agree to anything you suggest.  Believe me.  I've used this method a few times -- like when I got Alex to agree that I would set his schedule each week.  He feebly protested at first, but, when I agreed that I'd give him some free time, he went along.  Of course now, even that has ended, but more about that another time....

But, for the most part, as long as your husband has not had an orgasm for at least 48 hours, he'll be cooperative with you, with our without penis stimulation.

Now, a tricky thing is when do you allow him to orgasm.  As we've noted, after that happens, he's no longer "on edge" and no longer nearly as interested in pleasing you.  In time, this won't matter so much as you'll have your authority well established and the household running as you want it to, so, it's not like he's going to suddenly revert to the way he was before you started any of this.  If he did that would be a major problem that would require a severe response -- like making him stay somewhere alone to "think about it."  Or even a literal spanking over your knee.   But, anyway, none of that will probably be needed once you have established these new roles, which again, your husband will be really into as long as you have kept it all tied to his sex drive by telling how it turns you on when he does these things the way you want and how it just makes sense anyway, etc.

Still, while I've not had to seriously resort to orgasm denial (though we do play with the idea from time to time, for instance I might threaten it if Alex fails to do something I wanted him to do...he'll say, "sorry ma'am" and that's enough in our relationship) -- some women have found it helpful to severely restrict when her man has an orgasm.  They have found it works better for everyone if he is denied release for weeks (some even go months) at a time.  They have found it makes their man almost like a puppy dog, desperate for a treat, and gives them a feeling of great power.  Again, it's too much for me, but interesting none the less and useful to know these options exist.

I've found the two primary ways this is done is first through chastity as discussed at http://www.aboutflr.com/Guided-Training.html  and she keeps the key (the power).  Another way is through http://www.aboutflr.com/issues/Discuss-prostate-milking.html prostate milking.  Apparently it forces the man's semen out without an orgasm, leaving him on edge, unable to have an erection, until he's build up sufficient semen.  I might like to try out both of these things sometime, just for fun.  But, not seriously.  Things are going too well now so I don't want to rock the boat too much...

Here's a great article about the science behind male chastity.

Oh, here's another resource about managing a man's orgasm.  There's tons of this stuff out there if you look.

http://lovingfemaleauthority.blogspot.com/2005/07/power-of-managing-his-orgasms.html