Hi, sorry it's been a while since I posted.  But, being New Years Day and all I figured an update was warranted.

So, 2013 has been a great year for me and hubby.  We have grown into our roles with me as dominant and he submissive.  Of course, this isn't always apparent in everything -- nor would I want it to be.  But, we both know that in the end -- I make the rules so to speak and we both like it that way.

We've found certain rituals to be enjoyable.  For instance, Alex now takes care of all the chores involving our bedroom.  He picks up and puts away my clothes, does my laundry, makes our bed, makes sure the room is always picked up and neat and orderly.  Any time I find it otherwise, is an opportunity to "reprimand" him and engage in some dominant play -- maybe a punishment even.

I say "play" cause that's what it is.  We have fun with it.  But, it is more than that as well and that harder edge is important, especially to Alex, as he gets sexually turned on when I exert dominance over him.  Increasingly, I do as well as I have come to enjoy the lifestyle :)

Anyway, the rituals are nice because they remind us both every day of this part of our relationship that we love.  Frankly, it's helpful to me as well not having to bother with my clothes and cleaning our room.  But, it's constantly a turn on to both of us when, for instance, I walk into the room and get undressed and simply drop my clothes wherever I am.  We both know it's his "job" to pick them up and take care of them.  In fact, if he's present when I undress he must immediately pick them up and care for them --  not just let them lay there.  Not a word need be spoken about it, but he just does it, cause he loves it and it turns him on.  All I do is supervise what he does and if he does something wrong, like puts an article of clothing in the wrong place, I give him a playful swat on the but, he apologizes -- such fun.

It's also generally good that we don't have to extend this outside of our bedroom -- that way the kids and visitors generally don't see the most obvious displays of his submission and that makes things better all the way around.

I am looking forward to a time when kids aren't around and our "play" can be safely expanded to the entire house, more than just once in a while (i.e. kids spend night at grandmom's or whatever).  But, for now, this will have to do.  

Overall, I think we are both very happy to have found this lifestyle and look forward to progressing with it.  He is sexually turned on by my domination of him; I increasingly am turned on as well.  A perfect match.

I think lots of couples would be happier in some form of FLR and it's too bad that social norms inhibit that.  It's relatively easy to slide into a male dominated relationship.  A female dominated relationship is more taboo.  But, perhaps that adds to the thrill.

For 2014 -- I'm toying with the idea of exerting some financial control -- maybe to some degree.  I may put Alex on an allowance and see how that goes.  We'll see.

Happy New Year to you all!